The premise of Lisa's book is that in lieu of the Old Testament idols and images that are so predominantly sought after and worshipped by pagans and the Children of Israel in the bible, our modern-day world has erected it's own. This image is the "Perfect Woman of Beauty". We all know what she looks like and we have all strived in one way to compare ourselves to and measure up to this "Goddess". Lisa points out that this image is false because it has been created by choosing select pre-child-bearing, meticulously groomed, photo-altered and enhanced subjects who look nothing like the average woman. This is demonstrated so well in the Dove commercial that we show on the Encounters--"Dove Revolution".
We see her in magazines, commercials, t.v., movies, posters, catalogues, internet, and every conceivable place in between.
"Be like me," she beakons, "and everyone will like you, men will desire you, and you will be the ultimate woman!"Inevidably as we scrutinize ourselves next to this image, we come up short. We are too tall or short, fat or thin, disproportioned, hairy or lacking hair where needed. We are too light or too dark, too straight or too crooked. The list of violations goes on and on.
With a focus on weight, Lisa discusses the lengths to which women will go to conform. She discusses her own battle with bulimia during her college years.
For the record, I have never made myself throw up on purpose, ever! I hate vomitting with a passion and cannot conceive of using this as a method of food control. When I talk of bad habits, this is and never was one of them. Some women do struggle with this though.
The book goes on to share how Lisa came to focus on the word of God and began eating more healthfully for hunger only and through the guidance of the Holy Spirit was able to pick a healthy weight for herself and stick to it.
I don't remember all the details of her book, but I do remember that I picked a more reasonable weight for myself and gave away all the clothes that I wouldn't fit into anymore because of it.
I also was inspired to cover my bedroom & bathroom mirrors with butcher paper (from the neck down) and covered the butcher paper with posters quoting scripture that talked about God's definition of a virtuous, Christian woman. I did this because I noticed that as I dressed/undressed daily, I automatically examined myself and judged myself by the world's standards. It was a little weird, I admit, but when I reflectively glanced in the mirrors, instead of focusing on myself and my perceived shortcomings, I saw the reflection of Truth. It was a valuable exercise and I benefited greatly from it.

Love this topic because every person is faced with it daily, it's like an open wound.
ReplyDeleteA counter-cutural beauty is one that rejects worldly perfection for a lifestyle of walking in excellence for Christ. I have come to realize that the why behind what we do is more important than the result obtained. It is possible that achieving a favorable result with a heart that is not surrendered can be like a loaded gun masked.
This is great blogging Melissa. You are troubling the waters and it is challenging and refreshing.